How to Respond to Critiques

In my first post for Pub Crawl I confessed that I was just coming back to writing after several years away. To help me succeed in the effort, I have recently put together a Critique Group.

Steph and Stacey’s excellent Critique Cheat Sheet is a fantastic resource for how to give useful, insightful critical feedback. But I’ve also been thinking lately about how we respond to critiques. I believe that knowing how to respond to critical feedback is a skill as important for writers as knowing how to give meaningful critical feedback to others.

Today I’m talking strictly about critical feedback that you receive during the drafting or revision process. I am not talking about how to respond to reviews of your published work (because almost always the answer to “How do I respond to a review?” is: DON’T).

Writing is by nature intensely personal and solitary. In fact, that’s why so many of us seek out critique partners or beta readers to begin with. We are so immersed in our own stories that sometimes we can’t see the forest for the trees. Trusted beta readers or critique partners can provide a more objective, holistic view from a distance, which also makes it easier for them to spot problems.

Inviting others to critique your work is an intimate act. And sometimes receiving critical feedback is difficult. You’ve laid yourself bare and and made yourself vulnerable in sharing your work with someone else. Even if the praise and encouragement you get back far outnumbers the issues that are highlighted, it’s the things that aren’t working that will haunt you. Especially when it’s not that there’s a problem with your book, it’s that the reader just doesn’t get it. It’s natural to want to explain, to defend or dismiss. But I’m here to argue that you shouldn’t.

All readers bring their own unique perspective to your work. Everyone will see different things in your writing and interpret it in different ways (for proof of that all you need to do is scroll through a handful of reviews on Goodreads). Sometimes the things readers see in your work are unintentional, or even the opposite of what you’re trying to convey. You can’t lean over the shoulder of every reader and explain your book as they read it; your story has to stand on its own. And so no matter how tempting it is to defend your work to your critique partners, to explain away the misconceptions or state your intentions, it’s not actually useful to do so. Not if you want to write a better book.

So what should you do instead?


Listen to the feedback people give you. Listen without waiting for them to finish speaking so that you can address their points. Simply listen, attentively, and quietly. Take notes. Bite back the urge to respond, and just take the time to acknowledge the things that your readers are pointing out to you. Listening doesn’t mean that you have to agree with all the feedback you receive. Later you can examine these critiques and weigh them against your desires and intentions for your writing and decide what to do about them. But that’s later. First, you need to listen.

Ask questions

Make sure that you understand what people are telling you. If you aren’t clear on something, wait until the critique is finished and ask for clarification. Ask for specific examples of the problems cited. Critiques are only useful to you if you understand them. Ask questions, but again, resist the urge to explain.


Now that you’ve received your critique and are certain you understand it, it’s time to evaluate and determine how to proceed. Give yourself some space and distance. You need time to absorb all of this feedback before you can begin to dissect it. This is still your book, and you don’t have to incorporate all of the feedback you receive into your story. But if you’ve taken the time to carefully consider what your critique partners have to say, it’s likely that you’ll find that much of it is worthy of your attention. Sort through all of the feedback and decide which issues you want to resolve in your next revision.

Answer with your writing

The best way to respond to critiques is by addressing them in your writing. For feedback with which you agree, make the necessary changes to correct those problems. If you’ve received some feedback that doesn’t feel right to you, comb through your manuscript and see if there are things you can strengthen so that your intentions are better communicated. The best place to defend your writing is in your writing itself. Rather than insisting that people are misinterpreting your work or that they just don’t understand, take it upon yourself to make your writing stronger, clearer, and more resonant. Your work is going to have to stand alone, so make sure that it does. Critiques can make your writing better if you’re willing to embrace them and get to work.

In the comments, lets us know if you have any other tips for grace under fire when receiving critical feedback. 

10 Responses to How to Respond to Critiques

  1. Virginia Anderson Jan 25 2016 at 2:11 pm #

    I want to second the advice to give yourself time and distance from critiques. No matter how long I’ve been at this, there’s always a moment when my hackles rise just the tiniest bit when someone offers criticism, even clearly thoughtful criticism. In a group setting, the best bet for me is to make sure I fully understand the critiquer’s concerns, then say, “Let me make a note of that. I’ll think about it.” I’ve found that after a couple of days, my brain starts producing solutions that not only respond to the criticism but also satisfy me, often providing a new dimension to a scene or character. It’s important to see this as all part of the process. Thanks for good advice!

    • Kelly Jan 27 2016 at 8:49 am #

      Time and distance are so important, aren’t they? I love your handy script: “Let me make a note of that. I’ll think about it.” It’s a good idea to have something to say so that I don’t give in to my impulse to defend and explain!

  2. Stacey Jan 25 2016 at 2:30 pm #

    My favorite line — “Simply listen, attentively, and quietly.” So perfectly true! Thanks Kelly for a great post.

    • Kelly Jan 27 2016 at 8:49 am #

      Thanks, Stacey! So much of this post was inspired by all the thinking I did after reading your cheat sheet!

  3. Chris Bailey Jan 25 2016 at 3:58 pm #

    I had a favorite line, too–“Rather than insisting that people are misinterpreting your work or that they just don’t understand, take it upon yourself to make your writing stronger, clearer, and more resonant.” The part that’s the most difficult for me is asking clarifying questions, because I usually think I understand at the time, but when I start to revise, I’m unsure.

    • Kelly Jan 27 2016 at 8:52 am #

      Asking questions is key! Sometimes when I can’t think of any good clarifying questions to ask in the midst of the critique, I make sure at least to ask: “Can you give me some specific examples of that throughout the book?” So that way, instead of just winding up with a critique note that my MC is underdeveloped, instead I have a serious of moments throughout the novel where I know that development was particularly weak or a place that’s ripe for some backstory.

  4. Sarah Bourne Jan 25 2016 at 4:22 pm #

    Great post, thank you. It can be hard to sit there and listen, but as you say, there is no point in trying to defend your work or idea. I always try to take time to sit and consider the feedback some days later when any hurt feelings have disappeared. Usually there’s a lot of gold to be mined when I’m feeling more rational!

    • Kelly Jan 27 2016 at 8:53 am #

      So true! The difference in my response to critique in the moment and after I’ve had a little time to distance myself from them are night and day.

  5. Carrie Miller Dec 12 2016 at 9:41 am #

    I’m so glad I found this article. It is very helpful. I just started the beta reading process and I’m having difficulty with the initial feedback. Many points in this article resonated with me – I felt like you were talking directly to me! LOL

  6. Bridgette Roberson Aug 25 2019 at 5:09 am #

    I recently joined a writing group and submitted my first piece to be critque. The feedback was mixed. I left with hurt feelings. I will take your advice and evaualte the feebcak. Then get back to writing. Thank you for the insightful article.

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